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redqueenxlt:

letstalkaboutrape:

I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:

www.malesurvivor.org

www.violenceunsilenced.com

www.rainn.org

www.pandys.org

www.1in6.org

www.soulspeakout.org

http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/

Thanks everyone!

reblog for signal boost

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zaynmalphurs:

queennubian:

1uppitynegress:

#Prayers #Repost from @gcode2222 “If you see her please call the number 404-503-5848 or hit @robinhoodmills” via @InstaReposts

SIGNAL BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOST!!!! Help Bring her home!

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For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!” 

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement.

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hurricanranaa:

stop sexualising mental illness

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lowproductionvalue:

Calling out racism and sexism puts you in more of a position of danger or dislike than being racist and sexist. How is that ok?

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cs-k:

stfuconservatives:

“So I shouldn’t be surprised that the Mother’s Day Parade shooting has largely been forgotten. On Sunday, shots were fired into a crowd during a parade in the New Orleans 7th ward. Police said they saw three suspects running from the scene.

This is the largest mass shooting in the United States where the shooters were still at large after the crime was committed. Think about that for a minute. From Columbine to Virginia Tech to Fort Hill to Aurora, all the shooters were either killed or apprehended on site. But the person or people responsible for shooting 19 Americans are still free.”

One of the people who got shot was an antiviolence blogger. Somehow we aren’t seeing massive solidarity for New Orleans or the entire city going on police lockdown to find the perpetrators. Two reasons: 1) This mostly affected Black people, and we all know how much the media and the police give any fucks about Black people in New Orleans; 2) This was a gun crime, so we can’t criticize it because GUNS ARE FREEDOM!

Wait what…? I hadn’t even heard about this! The fuck.

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vinnysmommy-andwaiting:

vinnysmommy-andwaiting:

I NEED THIS BOOSTED
This is my brother.
His name is Ralph Persuhn jr.
He’s 16 years old, 6’6 hazel eyes and brown hair
He’s been missing since this afternoon.
The police have been notified.
We’re from kent, Ohio. If you see him at all, notify the local police or call kent police station at tel:330-673-7732 and tell me!
He went to a friends and is no longer there,
He’s either still in kent, in the Ravenna area or in the Akron area.

UPDATE:
We talked to his friends, they said he was on his way to the library and he never showed up.
PLEASE if ANYBODY hears/sees/knows ANYTHING call the police
PLEASE
BRING MY BROTHER HOME

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glowpants:

Sara Grace Watts has been missing since Monday, May 13th, from Victoria BC. She was last seen boarding a bc ferry on said day; perhaps heading for Kitchener Ontario. Call the Saanich Police Department at 250-475-4321 if you have any information to share. 

Grace is in my grade, I have had many classes with her. I have never been so profoundly affected by a missing person’s report. I suppose it cuts more deeply when it concerns someone you know. Please repost—especially Canadian bloggers. 

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into-icy-blues:

theshatteredhearts:

alljustthesame:

Macklemore speaks the fucking truth.

People don’t realize how much of a genius Macklemore really is. The only song they know is Thrift Shop, when there are so many more wonderful songs. He raps about the problems of the world. And that is what makes him an inspiring person.

You know who else rapped about problems of the world? The Black Americans that invented the damn genre and faced actual injustice on a social, economic, and political level. But no one seems to want to make GIF sets of the original inspiring people when we have Macklemore around. T_T

Sorry can you tell that I’ve heard one too many Macklemore fans shouting praise for how “groundbreaking” he is in the past few weeks? Groundbreaking my ass.

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